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Post by Bonobo on Oct 21, 2010 19:38:56 GMT 1
I like playing one. Analysing people`s behaviour is a valuable distractor of boredom.  10 years ago I was a teacher for a private language school. We were driven to villages around Krakow to run English courses. I remember about a dozen drivers. One of them, a young man, about 24, a student at Maritime University in Gdynia, www.am.gdynia.pl/en/said once: Shit, I get so horny when I meet a single woman with a child( it could also be:Single women with children turn me on like hell) . I fall for her on the spot. What do you think, why did he cherish such a predilection? |
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Post by uncltim on Oct 23, 2010 3:39:46 GMT 1
That is odd. Perhaps he fancies himself a white knight who saves damsels in distress. More likely he sees them as an easy mark because he perceives them as disadvantaged, or, he's just freaky like that.
What is my diagnosis Bo?
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Post by tufta on Oct 23, 2010 13:58:18 GMT 1
What do you think, why did he cherish such a predilection? There are too little data ;D |
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Post by Bonobo on Oct 28, 2010 13:30:48 GMT 1
That is odd. Perhaps he fancies himself a white knight who saves damsels in distress. More likely he sees them as an easy mark because he perceives them as disadvantaged, or, he's just freaky like that. What is my diagnosis Bo? I am afraid the reason was still different. Though about 24, he was still too immature to start his own family. It seemed to him that he wanted to have a family originated by someone else. Then, in case of failure, he wouldn`t feel so guilty. He could say: It isn`t my REAL family, so what the heck? In simple words, he was scared of taking full responsibility and prefered to share it with somebody. Sort of insecure guy. I suppose so because I got to know his two colleagues who were our regular drivers (he was a replacement on a few rides). They used to be totally irresponsible - they drank at night, came late next morning, drove without seatbelts, etc. Nice but reckless. What do you think, why did he cherish such a predilection? There are too little data ;D Nope, it was enough. ;D ;D ;D ;D |
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Post by tufta on Oct 28, 2010 18:48:36 GMT 1
There are too little data ;D Nope, it was enough. ;D ;D ;D ;D[/quote] For the most bright perhaps  |
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Post by Bonobo on Oct 28, 2010 21:27:38 GMT 1
For the most bright perhaps You belong to the group. ;D ;D ;D |
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Post by uncltim on Oct 28, 2010 23:20:04 GMT 1
He wanted a disposable family.
You have dodged my question Bo. You have been aquainted with me long enough to notice some personality traits of mine. I would be interested to learn how you assess this stranger amongst you.
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Post by Bonobo on Oct 30, 2010 20:57:21 GMT 1
You have dodged my question Bo.. I haven`t. I simply misunderstood it. . You are still a riddle wrapped up in an enigma to me. I have to collect more data to formulate a valid opinion. ;D ;D ;D ;D One thing is certain, though - you tend to be dangerous at times. ;D ;D ;D ;D |
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Post by jeanne on Oct 30, 2010 23:28:26 GMT 1
said once: Shit, I get so horny when I meet a single woman with a child( it could also be:Single women with children turn me on like hell) . I fall for her on the spot. What do you think, why did he cherish such a predilection? Perhaps this young man is so turned on by a single woman with a child because the presence of the child subconsciously indicates to him that this woman "knows the ropes" (is experienced) sexually- speaking and that she has been found to be sexually attractive to another man... |
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Post by uncltim on Nov 5, 2010 22:04:37 GMT 1
One thing is certain, though - you tend to be dangerous at times. ;D ;D ;D ;D You understand me quite well! I believe self-actualized is the more proper term. |
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Post by Bonobo on Nov 6, 2010 21:53:02 GMT 1
One thing is certain, though - you tend to be dangerous at times. ;D ;D ;D ;D You understand me quite well! I believe self-actualized is the more proper term. Yes, it is still connected with being dangeorus. I highlighted certain passage in the text below.
Characteristics of Self-Actualized People
In addition to describing what is meant by self-actualization in his theory, Maslow also identified some of the key characteristics of self-actualized people:
* Acceptance and Realism: Self-actualized people have realistic perceptions of themselves, others and the world around them.
* Problem-centering: Self-actualized individuals are concerned with solving problems outside of themselves, including helping others and finding solutions to problems in the external world. These people are often motivated by a sense of personal responsibility and ethics.
* Spontaneity: Self-actualized people are spontaneous in their internal thoughts and outward behavior. While they can conform to rules and social expectations, they also tend to be open and unconventional.
* Autonomy and Solitude: Another characteristics of self-actualized people is the need for independence and privacy. While they enjoy the company of others, these individuals need time to focus on developing their own individual potential.
* Continued Freshness of Appreciation: Self-actualized people tend to view the world with a continual sense of appreciation, wonder and awe. Even simple experiences continue to be a source of inspiration and pleasure.
* Peak Experiences: Individuals who are self-actualized often have what Maslow termed peak experiences, or moments of intense joy, wonder, awe and ecstasy. After these experiences, people feel inspired, strengthened, renewed or transformed.3
You know what? It seems I share all these characteristics. At last I know what I am. ;D ;D Perhaps this young man is so turned on by a single woman with a child because the presence of the child subconsciously indicates to him that this woman "knows the ropes" (is experienced) sexually- speaking and that she has been found to be sexually attractive to another man... Yes, it is very probable. |
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Post by Bonobo on Nov 6, 2010 21:54:42 GMT 1
Perhaps this young man is so turned on by a single woman with a child because the presence of the child subconsciously indicates to him that this woman "knows the ropes" (is experienced) sexually- speaking and that she has been found to be sexually attractive to another man... Yes, it is very probable. |
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Post by uncltim on Nov 7, 2010 22:29:53 GMT 1
Self-actualized people are spontaneous in their internal thoughts. Absolutely and outward behavior. Absolutely not. While they can conform to rules and social expectations, they also tend to be open and unconventional. I have great respect for social norms and law. I do however easily ingnore those which produce a moral hazard for me. I have approval to do this from very high authority. “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is — His good, pleasing and perfect will” (Romans 12:2, NIV)
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Post by jeanne on Nov 7, 2010 23:39:18 GMT 1
Self-actualized people are spontaneous in their internal thoughts. Absolutely and outward behavior. Absolutely not. While they can conform to rules and social expectations, they also tend to be open and unconventional. I have great respect for social norms and law. I do however easily ingnore those which produce a moral hazard for me. I have approval to do this from very high authority. “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is — His good, pleasing and perfect will” (Romans 12:2, NIV) I like the way you think, Tim! |
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Post by uncltim on Nov 8, 2010 22:31:55 GMT 1
Thanks! I'm just a simple country boy.
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Post by Bonobo on Nov 9, 2010 22:50:29 GMT 1
Self-actualized people are spontaneous in their internal thoughts. Absolutely and outward behavior. Absolutely not. Judging by your manners, you sound a well-bred gentleman, able to control his emotions. Is your internal self more stormy/stormier than you reveal to us, then? |
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Post by uncltim on Nov 11, 2010 23:58:16 GMT 1
Judging by your manners, you sound a well-bred gentleman
What a nice thing to say! If my mother was still alive she would love to hear someone describe me as such.
My internal dialogue is pretty tame. I tend to reason through things with a logical approach. I never panic.
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Post by Bonobo on Nov 13, 2010 19:54:17 GMT 1
My internal dialogue is pretty tame. I tend to reason through things with a logical approach. I never panic. That reminds me of  |
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Post by pjotr on Nov 14, 2010 2:24:11 GMT 1
I like playing one. Analysing people`s behaviour is a valuable distractor of boredom. 10 years ago I was a teacher for a private language school. We were driven to villages around Krakow to run English courses. I remember about a dozen drivers. One of them, a young man, about 24, a student at Maritime University in Gdynia, www.am.gdynia.pl/en/said once: Shit, I get so horny when I meet a single woman with a child( it could also be:Single women with children turn me on like hell) . I fall for her on the spot. What do you think, why did he cherish such a predilection? Is the guy a pedophile or a pervert who thinks like this; if it is a woman with a daughter, when the daughter becomes mature, I have two wives?  ;D I am a bachelor, and I am always glad when I find an attractive woman without a husbant or boyfriend. I am a decent chap, and believe and live according to the ten commandments (eventhough I am not a church goer). ;D *A normal young man in my opinion prefers a single girl or woman without children and a boyfriend or husbant. 10. You shall not covet***** your neighbor's wife ;D P.S.- The exeption is ofcourse the young man who is gay and prefers another young man above a lady. ;D |
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Post by pjotr on Nov 14, 2010 2:27:30 GMT 1
To be Frank in my age of 40 I am not totally like I described myself in the previous message. I described myself when I was a young man of 24. Today I have nothing against a woman with children who is single. But there is a rule or demand with that. The kids must accept me, and I am not the dad of the kids. I am not their biological father, I am the friend or new husbant of their mother. ;D
In my age there are few women left without children. The majority of women in their final thirtees and early fourtees have children.
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Post by uncltim on Nov 17, 2010 4:40:51 GMT 1
I was initially thinking along those same lines Peter, I just didn;t want to bring it up because its more unpleasant than I really wanted to believe. I can see if a man met a woman and liked her enough to include her child in his life, That is a noble and unselfish thing to do. The idea of her having a child as a prerequisite to a relationship just seems creepy and nefarious the more I think about it.
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Post by Bonobo on Jan 9, 2011 0:18:14 GMT 1
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Post by uncltim on Jan 9, 2011 1:54:13 GMT 1
You have a very artistic heart and eye. Bridges have a physical and symbolic beauty.
True candor! Anyone can post the picturesque. As a traveler and a male, what I really want to know is what kind of amenities does this strange land offer. I treasure my daily poop and want to enjoy it in a place of splendor. You sir, are extremely intuitive.
Oh, the exquisite irony! A subtle masterpiece of comedy! So devilishly clever that it often goes undetected by the casual observer. Genius.
Possibly masochistic tendencies, running a forum is a difficult task.
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Post by jeanne on Jan 9, 2011 13:14:47 GMT 1
Is he crazy or doesn`t know what to do with time? Probably a combination of both! ;D ;D ;D (A sometimes deadly mixture!) Seriously, I think it is the charm of your unconventional postings that make this forum so refreshing. Please don't stop...I greatly enjoy viewing the world (of Poland and beyond...and parts often unseen  ) through the eyes of Bonobo! |
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Post by Bonobo on Jan 9, 2011 15:47:23 GMT 1
Bridges have a physical and symbolic beauty. Yes, I became fascinated with them some time ago. Yes, I thought you might want to know what to expect here. Hey, are you a descendant of Virginia Wolf? You employ a very high language. Masochistic maybe not, but I have always had a penchant for asceticism |
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Post by Bonobo on Jan 17, 2011 23:11:32 GMT 1
On 31 December I left my car at an unfamiliar garage. The mechanic looked/sounded promising. But he delayed for 13 days as he lacked experience to deal with that type of engine. So I had to move the car to another garage (my old one which had been too busy in December). They need to take out the gear box and other stuff in order to repair the cam system.
I have been using public transport since then. It takes longer to reach my destinations, so I have less time now.
And that is why I have felt a little dejected recently.
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Post by uncltim on Jan 18, 2011 2:59:38 GMT 1
Sorry to hear that you have car troubles. A good mechanic is worth their weight in gold.
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Post by jeanne on Jan 18, 2011 23:50:21 GMT 1
I have been using public transport since then. It takes longer to reach my destinations, so I have less time now. And that is why I have felt a little dejected recently. Actually, this situation might be good for your character development. Taking public transportation is good for developing humility... ;D ;D ;D |
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Post by Bonobo on Jan 19, 2011 0:05:41 GMT 1
Actually, this situation might be good for your character development. Taking public transportation is good for developing humility... ;D ;D ;D Yes, that is how I am trying to view the situation. God ruled so to teach me a lesson and make me less haughty. |
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Post by jeanne on Jan 19, 2011 0:50:51 GMT 1
Actually, this situation might be good for your character development. Taking public transportation is good for developing humility... ;D ;D ;D Yes, that is how I am trying to view the situation. God ruled so to teach me a lesson and make me less haughty. ...and in doing so, helped out those who must live and work with you! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D |
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